The Anger Trap

Anger is a contrivance to damage yourself by yourself. Everything eventually becomes stressful and uncomfortable. You feel no delight in anything even if you want to. From all of the people around you, you feel a kind of irritation, even from your favourite people. This is the biggest harm your anger can ever give you. Being at a distance from your love ones, what else can be the saddest thing in your life? It makes you more depressed and more stressed which surely affects your both mental and physical health.

Whenever you get angry your stress hormones speed up your heart beat rate and breathing. In one report, researchers found that healthy people who are often angry or hostile are 19% more likely than calmer people to get heart disease. Among people with heart disease, those who usually feel angry or hostile fared worse than others. The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.

Apart from the physical illness, mental illness also becomes stimulated substantially. Those who can’t control their anger, make themselves isolated from their friends and family. Mostly people with low self-esteem get frustrated easily. They feel so helpless and hopeless that they use anger explosion as a tool to show themselves powerful and dominated or might be they do not get enough attention and devotion as they expect from their close ones.

For all the aggressive people like me, there is a very easy solution. Always try to engage yourself in any kind of activity in which you feel pleased, relaxed and contented. If you become angry, first try to calm yourself. Before showing your emotions, talk to yourself first. Always make time for yourself, make sure that you setup 15-20 minutes in every 24 hours for yourself in which you discuss all of your issues and wretched matters with yourself. Keep a diary, make notes, put all of the aggression in them, and write down your feelings as brutally as you can. Write as much as you can. Write until you cool down.

I myself have experienced this aggressive state of mind. I was an antagonistic type of child by birth. I used to become heated very swiftly even on minor things. I used to hurt myself by not eating food for days and hurting my arms from blades or knives. But then I realized that all who got damage from this anger was only ME. My anger wasn’t causing any harm to anyone but ME. It wasn’t affecting anyone a bit. This was the time when an enormous change approached my life. I did everything I have mentioned above to keep my temper normal and GUESS WHAT? I succeeded in achieving what I wanted. I started loving myself and that became my strength in keeping control on my bad humor and displeasure attitudes. I still become heated but it is far lesser than before. All I did was giving myself time and loving myself more than anyone.

In the end, I want to tell a very easiest way to keep yourself out of the anxiety, WASH UTENSILS. You might find it funny but believe you me it helps a lot to release all the traumatic and nerve-wracking feelings and emotions.