Anger is a contrivance to damage
yourself by yourself. Everything eventually becomes stressful and
uncomfortable. You feel no delight in anything even if you want to. From all of
the people around you, you feel a kind of irritation, even from your favourite
people. This is the biggest harm your anger can ever give you. Being at a
distance from your love ones, what else can be the saddest thing in your life? It
makes you more depressed and more stressed which surely affects your both
mental and physical health.
Whenever you get angry your stress hormones speed up your heart beat rate
and breathing. In one report, researchers found
that healthy people who are often angry or hostile are 19% more likely than
calmer people to get heart disease. Among people with heart disease, those who
usually feel angry or hostile fared worse than others. The brain shunts
blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical
exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature
rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.
Apart from the
physical illness, mental illness also becomes stimulated substantially. Those
who can’t control their anger, make themselves isolated from their friends and
family. Mostly people with low self-esteem get frustrated easily. They feel so
helpless and hopeless that they use anger explosion as a tool to show
themselves powerful and dominated or might be they do not get enough attention
and devotion as they expect from their close ones.
For all the
aggressive people like me, there is a very easy solution. Always try to engage
yourself in any kind of activity in which you feel pleased, relaxed and
contented. If you become angry, first try to calm yourself. Before showing your
emotions, talk to yourself first. Always make time for yourself, make sure that
you setup 15-20 minutes in every 24 hours for yourself in which you discuss all
of your issues and wretched matters with yourself. Keep a diary, make notes,
put all of the aggression in them, and write down your feelings as brutally as
you can. Write as much as you can. Write until you cool down.
I myself have
experienced this aggressive state of mind. I was an antagonistic type of child
by birth. I used to become heated very swiftly even on minor things. I used to
hurt myself by not eating food for days and hurting my arms from blades or
knives. But then I realized that all who got damage from this anger was only
ME. My anger wasn’t causing any harm to anyone but ME. It wasn’t affecting
anyone a bit. This was the time when an enormous change approached my life. I
did everything I have mentioned above to keep my temper normal and GUESS WHAT?
I succeeded in achieving what I wanted. I started loving myself and that
became my strength in keeping control on my bad humor and displeasure
attitudes. I still become heated but it is far lesser than before. All I did was
giving myself time and loving myself more than anyone.
In the end, I want
to tell a very easiest way to keep yourself out of the anxiety, WASH UTENSILS.
You might find it funny but believe you me it helps a lot to release all the
traumatic and nerve-wracking feelings and emotions.